What Is Codependency?

• My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you.
• My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you.
• Your struggles affect my serenity. My mental attention focuses on solving your problems or relieving your pain.
• My mental attention is focused on pleasing you.
• My mental attention is focused on protecting you.
• My mental attention is focused on manipulating you "to do it my way."
• My self esteem is bolstered by solving your problems.
• My self esteem is bolstered by relieving your pain.
• My own hobbies and interests are put aside.
• My time is spent sharing your interests and hobbies.
• Your clothing and personal appearance is dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of me.
• Your behavior is dictated by my desires as I feel you are a reflection of me.
• I am not aware of how I feel, I am aware of how you feel.
• I am not aware of what I want, I ask what you want. If I am not aware, I assume.
• The dreams I have for my future are linked to you.
• My fear of rejection determines what I say or do.
• My fear of your anger determines what I say or do.
• I use giving as a way of feeling safe in our relationship.
• My social circle diminishes as I involve myself with you.
• I put my values aside in order to connect with you.
• I value your opinion and way of doing things more than my own.
• The quality of my life is in relation to the quality of yours.

IF YOU CHECK 10 OR MORE, YOU MAY STRUGGLE WITH CODEPENDENCY.